(((((((Joseph)))))) You are not alone anymore. You now have freinds that understand. You will soon learn there will be good days and there will be bad days on your road to healing but just remember you always have freinds here that are willing to listen and try to give a helping hand.
You are right about your wife reading the post and what ever will help her understand what you are going through because it will help her . It sounds like she is going to be supportive and that really helps. The more she knows about SA the more she'll understand you.
It wasn't until my wife started reading the post here did she really understand the effect the SA on me. Our relationship is growing stronger and stronger each day with the help of T,books and MS.
Hope to hear from you soon and often. I'm so glad that you have found the road to a new way of living.