I have read through your post several times and I have to confess I have nothing especially wise to say. Your situation is just so complicated and I can appreciate how conflicted you must feel.
I hope you will continue to work with your T on these issues. It seems to me that there remains a lot to do before you will really be comfortable with any particular gender and sexual identity. And that's the key, isn't it? To be happy and content with yourself in your own skin.
Your post gives me some sense of the highly charged issues involved here, and I wish you all the best in resolving them.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)