Originally Posted By: Indygal
sometimes i believe others want us to forgive because they want what we went through to be over, to be in the past and forgotten - in their minds, whether or not it is in ours. i think sometimes these same individuals have difficulty accepting just how terrible some acts really are and how much damage can be done - especially if it was by a member of your own family.

Thanks for this insight, with which I 100% agree. Sometimes the notion of forgiving is like telling us we should "get over it" because "it was a long time ago". This is to ignore, of course, the enormous emotional damage that continues for years and years after the physical acts of abuse stop.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)