Affirming JM, I've read Ken's article and it is very good.
I don't think there are any hard and fast rules on this. It depends on the survivor, the perp, and the situations of the past & in the present.
For me a non-physical but very real confrontation with my mother (Perp #1) with my T in the safety of his office was all I needed or wanted. I can't even imagine ever seeing or in any way communicating with my mother ever again.
I tried reconciliation a few years ago, before I remembered the abuse (there were lots of other issues, tho, which I now know were related). Even then it just didn't work. Now I know why.
As I said we're all different. Just be cautious & slow about this. What is gained by contacting your perp? What could be lost? Maybe your T has a good point--same point my T gave me.
Take care of yourself MJ.
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."