I hope you know -and believe - that it's absolutely normal for a boy to feel abandoned when the abuse ends, even if he hated and feared the abuse while it was happening. I remember how it felt when I was 14: I actually grieved
for the abuser, thinking that he had abandoned me and that I must have done something just horrible to deserve for even him to toss me aside.
These are the feelings of wrecked and confused boys, Rob. We are not to blame for these sentiments or for any of the things that might have happened as a result later on.