You are both in a very vulnerable time and place right now. Please know that it will NOT be an easy journey. BUT, I do believe with you having been honest with her, this is going to be much better for you, for you both, to better understand what the other is feeling, and what is happening with it all. You've done well to be able to tell her, I know that is a very hard thing to do, to tell any loved one. I wish you continued good luck.
Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.
"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963