I think the answer to your question is that we find time in our lives for the things that really matter to us, or for other things that enable us to avoid facing the things that really matter to us. We just have to be clear which we are doing. It sounds to me like you are making good progress in figuring this one out. Please advise me when you do!!!! This has always been a terrible problem for me.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)