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#150892 - 04/15/07 11:14 AM Feeling like a Fool
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
elements of fooldom:

Edited by Robbie Brown (05/10/07 11:08 PM)

#150895 - 04/15/07 11:28 AM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Still]
dannym Offline

Registered: 03/25/07
Posts: 543
Loc: Boulder, Colorado
You are no fool, my friend. You are doing work harder than most people could endure, because you had to face and live through hell, and you survived. No fool, in my book.

Whining? Nope.

Healing and reaching out and making gains? Yup.

Just a note about disclosing. I did the same thing. Gave the letter I wrote to my abuser to a few friends. None of them mentioned it until I brought it up. The reason (on both accounts) was that they were so overwhelmed, they didn't know how to bring it up, and they were afraid it might "get me thinking about it again". With one friend, I laughed really hard, when he asked me why, I said, "Dude, I'm NEVER not thinking about it!"

Love ya, Robbie


"You should listen to your heart, and not the voices in your head."

Marge Simpson

#150899 - 04/15/07 12:07 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: dannym]
buzz_key Offline

Registered: 03/31/07
Posts: 635
Loc: USA

You can't take the responsibility for all of this...
Flat out man...BAD - EVIL things were done TO you, not BY you.

Don't let your sister and friend validate you by their inaction or inability to respond to your trust...
I would suggest checking in with each one and asking them what they think about your story...if they asked you for it, put the ball back in thier court.
It could be like Dan said, they may be overwhelmed by the enormity and evil of it and don't know how to come back to you on help them through the door.

If you really think you are whining, then you are letting those 4 a**holes win....DON"T YOU DO THAT! DON"T YOU LET THEM WIN!

I love you Robbie.

#150903 - 04/15/07 12:14 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: dannym]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

I don't see the fooldom, bro. I see uncertainty as to how to relate to a disclosing relative and friend, as well as indifference at a critical moment, but those are the failings of other people.

Man, can I ever relate to the missed flight problem! I still have trouble with keeping flight details right in my head, and once I booked myself on a flight from Germany to the UK when in fact it had to be from the UK to Germany. I was sitting here in Oxfordshire and couldn't get that right!

That doesn't make us fools Robbie, it just means we are stressed out. I wonder why?

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#150906 - 04/15/07 12:24 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: roadrunner]
sabata Offline

Registered: 08/08/06
Posts: 1950
by no means you are a fool.................robbie..........yeu are reaching out..........thats kind to your self............steve

#150921 - 04/15/07 01:37 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: sabata]
shadowkid Offline
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Registered: 11/18/05
Posts: 2437
elements of cooldom :
spent 30 years in silent pain
found the coolest wife ever
built a good life for her
raised two beautifull children
showed them love everyday
made them all feel safe
confronted the man who hurt you as a kid
still being able to care about him even though he denys the moemories that are so hard for you
made friends with a screwd up kid that needs all he can get ,
you see fool ,i see cool , ps maybe there was a reason you missed that plane,i dont argue with stuff like that sometimes its a good thing adam

its not hard to fall
when you float like a cannonball - damien rice

#150932 - 04/15/07 02:20 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: shadowkid]
mack Offline

Registered: 03/07/07
Posts: 101
Loc: new mexico
FOOL? I don't think so. You are the hardest working survivor EVER!! After years and years of pain and misery, you haven't given up. You keep on fighing even when most of us would give up. You are an inspiration to us all. Every time we talk I hope and pray that I can find in me even one third the strength you have.


#150934 - 04/15/07 02:28 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: sabata]
Muldoon Offline

Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
Rob It could just be his way of bringing important people into you life. Just open up and see what comes your way.

After all it is Lordy's day and he may have a special day ahead for You. Sending you my thoughts today


Edited by Muldoon (04/15/07 03:35 PM)
Teach the Children to Never Hide in the Silence

#150938 - 04/15/07 02:47 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Muldoon]
dan17 Offline

Registered: 03/31/07
Posts: 72
I agree with shadowkid
you're the coolest "fool" i've ever met
about your father, I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're feeling
I hope and pray that he recovers
and I also agree with the others about the lack of response from your confidants
sometimes a lack of response indicates that the person is afraid of saying the wrong thing and possibly hurting you even more so
and don't worry about the flashbacks in front of your customer...he was probably embarrassed as that doesn't make you a fool...nobody can control when the past comes back to them
I don't know what else to say...

#150939 - 04/15/07 03:03 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: dan17]
FormerTexan Offline

Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 12125
Loc: Denver, CO

I don't have much to add here other than my agreement with these men. You're no fool. You're someone who has taken on the crap dealt to him and faced it head on. Confronting your dad is an inspiration to me in regards to my mother. Please be easy on yourself.

Money talks, but all it tells me is goodbye.

If I could meet myself as a boy...

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