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#146985 - 03/25/07 09:41 PM Its Tonight
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
The confrontation has been moved up to tonight (my house).
My father called. He's flying in from a trip tonight and wants to stop by and get this thing overwith now. No objections here.

I have pleanty of support lined-up. Got an EMT Firefighter accross the street at the ready, and all the cops are close to me.

I know it should not be here at MY house...but hey...that's how it is.

Still very scared. Wish me luck or PRAY please.

#146987 - 03/25/07 09:48 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: Still]
ken1964 Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 01/09/07
Posts: 18
Loc: michigan
Good luck to you, Robbie. That's a brave thing you're doing. You have the home court advantage. Not to mention being in the right.

Best Wishes

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." ~ Rumi

#146988 - 03/25/07 09:51 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: ken1964]
TNuss Offline

Registered: 02/28/06
Posts: 203
Loc: Del-A-Ware???
Thoughts are with you!!!

My goal is to confront on eof my abusers.

All my best!!!

In harmony,
I hug myself daily until the day I find the embrace that completes me.

#146989 - 03/25/07 09:58 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: Still]
reality2k4 Offline

Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6845
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
Robbie, its already nite in UK, but I hope you can find some closure.
Im on yr side,


#146990 - 03/25/07 10:07 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: reality2k4]
Grunty1967b Offline

Registered: 07/28/05
Posts: 861
Loc: Australia

I hope it goes the way you want it to.

Remember, we're here for you afterwards to support you. Tell us how it all goes (when you're ready to).

Thinking of you.

#146991 - 03/25/07 10:07 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: reality2k4]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270

Hope it goes well. If I could offer one bit of advise, I'd simply say don't go into the confrontation expecting any specific outcome, that way there will be no specific disappointments. It would be best for you to state the way you feel about what happened to you and how it affected you, and try to avoid statements of accusation. Statements of accusation lead to the person not hearing what you're really saying. By stating how what happened affected you the other person is left to draw their own conclusions regarding what you say and it is easier for them to own their part in that.

Just my advise. You of course are the one there and will do what you feel best at the time. And remember, we're here for you regardless of the outcome.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#146994 - 03/25/07 10:33 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: WalkingSouth]
mack Offline

Registered: 03/07/07
Posts: 101
Loc: new mexico
Here for you Robbie. I know you'll be able to handle this situation and come out of it in a new light. Prayers are with you.


#146995 - 03/25/07 10:43 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: mack]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
Just spent some time pushing my kids on the tire swing. GREAT therapy for the nerves.

1.25 hrs and counting

#147001 - 03/25/07 10:59 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: Still]
jamie' Offline

Registered: 03/10/07
Posts: 125
Loc: Ont, Can
Goodluck robbie. I really hope you let it all out.

No matter how long and dark the night is, Or the fear and hurt that it can bring, there will always be a dawn, where we can push the past aside and move forward with hope.

#147005 - 03/25/07 11:34 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: jamie']
shadowkid Offline
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Registered: 11/18/05
Posts: 2437
its time to take the power back dude! your in control this time!dont be afraid of him ,he cant hurt you anymore.

its not hard to fall
when you float like a cannonball - damien rice

#147008 - 03/25/07 11:58 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: Still]
GWsurvives Offline

Registered: 01/10/07
Posts: 251
Loc: Atlanta, and here, among othe...
Robbie, take good care of yourself tonight. Remember you are in the right. Don't take any excuses.. State your case... But take care of you!!


"Some times there just aren't enough rocks" Forrest Gump

#147013 - 03/26/07 12:17 AM Re: Its Tonight [Re: GWsurvives]
tartugas Offline

Registered: 02/12/07
Posts: 513
Loc: NYC

By your timeline you're on the middle of the conversation now. I jsut want you to know that I'm thinking abotu you and hopeing for the best. I have had a very positive day here (got my union card after 10+ years working in my field! woo-hoo!) and I am sending some of that energy your way.

Regardless of how the confrontation goes, I hpe that you come out of it feeling affirmed in yourself, closer to yourself, and more loving of yourself. It is a very big step to stand up and say this is what I need. I don't even particularly care what the old man has to say fro himself, all I care about is how you feel coming out of it.

"I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
Healing D.H. Lawrence

#147024 - 03/26/07 02:15 AM Re: Its Tonight [Re: Still]
Morning Star Offline

Registered: 12/21/04
Posts: 1124
Loc: Home
Take a deep breath, and take the plunge.
May the best happen.

~ It's over!...Let go of Thy Past, Remember Thy Self ~

Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

#147461 - 03/28/07 07:03 PM Re: Its Tonight [Re: shadowkid]
roadrunner Offline
Administrator Emeritus

Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

I saw this after I saw the thread about the confrontation, and I thought it might be useful to bump this up.

When we're fighting the good fight it's always worth the effort and the risk.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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