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#71087 - 01/11/07 03:38 PM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction
lostcowboy Offline

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 798
Loc: Rhode Island
Hi Daniel, hope you are doing well. About this going to hell thing, how open are you to new idea's. WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALITY Just found this web site, looks interesting.

A while back I came across this web site that says some of the bible was mistranslated from the Greek bible, The Bible, Christianity, & Homosexuality I myself cannot tell you what is true you will have to determine that your self. Most of us follow the teaching of Jesus, did he say anything against homosexuality, surely he will if it is important to him. Something to think about.

Take care,

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!

#71088 - 01/11/07 08:18 PM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction
Nobbynobs Offline

Registered: 06/26/05
Posts: 1286
Loc: Toronto
I stick to what Jesus said:

"So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets."

"Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you."

It doesn't matter if gays are sinners or not. We love them as we love everyone, and pray for them as we pray for everyone, and leave the judging to God. If we treat them badly or discriminate against them, the same standard will be used to judge us. Anyone who uses the words of the Bible to judge gays will find the words of the Bible used to judge them.

I know that the mainstream churches are really struggling with this issue, but I think they are too caught up in dogma. Jesus loves everyone, regardless of who they are. If we claim to follow Him, we follow his example. Simple as that.

When you go up to the bell, ring it! Or don't go up to the bell.

- Mel Brooks

#71089 - 01/14/07 04:32 AM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction
duncanUK Offline

Registered: 12/24/06
Posts: 632
Hi Guys

I dont normally post here. But I felt I had to. You are right about god and jesus they love everyone.It is the church and the other religious leaders who have corrupted and violated the word of god.

When judgement day comes the lord will burn all of those who have corrupted his word. I believe that if we are all made is gods image then being gay is not at sin at all.

The real sinners of this world are the relgious institutions and the filthy rich. I recently had a conversation at work with someone who is heavily into god. I asked them a simple question. I asked them "would they help a poor homeless person on the street? would they stop to help?"

You can guess what they said "No!!!" I then said now if jesus was walking down that same street dont you think he would stop.

You see these people are hypocrits.


you dont see me. i am not really here. Its my fault.. all of it. I am to blame and no one else.

#71090 - 01/21/07 02:40 AM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction
Galapogos Offline

Registered: 04/15/05
Posts: 110
Loc: usa
Hi Daniel,

I can relate to your situation and the topics you brought up in your post. (Long story short, I suffered CSA, I'm 40, gay, in the closet, never been in a relationship, never felt part of the "gay community" however it's definted)

Last yearI started a similar thread about what it means to be gay. Beyond the excitement of a sexual experience, what is it I'm seeking? There were a lot of replies, and then I found there was earlier post with even more.

I was sent to Lutheran sunday school and confirmation classes as a kid, but my parents weren't religious. I had a lot of guilt and shame around 13 or 14 when I realized I was different. I prayed and prayed not to like boys, not to be gay, but apparently god had other plans. I shouldn't be so sarcastic, sometimes it's tough.

The more I've learned about other religions, philosophy, and history, the more agnostic I become, and the less willing to debate the bible, or someones interpretation of it. I don't have any advice really, that's just my experience.

Digging in the dirt
Stay with me I need support
I'm digging in the dirt
To find the places I got hurt
Open up the places I got hurt
--Peter Gabriel

#138790 - 01/24/07 03:52 AM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction [Re: Galapogos]
froggy12 Offline

Registered: 11/12/06
Posts: 527
Loc: Marlboro, MA 01752
We are told that we are made in the image and likeness of God. Poor God. Or is it Good God! Or is God a projection of the super ego? I'll have an interesting chat when we meet.



#138902 - 01/25/07 01:31 AM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction [Re: blueturtle]
Bobby Offline

Registered: 12/01/04
Posts: 1287
Loc: Arizona
Okay, bt, I knew I shouldn't read any posts today. With something like this, I don't read any other replies. Usually I get so interested in what others have to say, that, by the time I'm finished reading, what I had to say doesn't matter any more. This one matters to me. Each time I write about it, I learn a little more about who I am. Often I'm surprised at some of the things I say.

The "gay thing" as I think of it, is one of the hardest parts for me, and I have spent a great deal of time and energy trying to find an answer. I, like you, have had very little (almost none) gay sexual experience. Recently, a trans-gendered friend helped me on this particular journey. We had met so that I could help her with her problems, and as is often the case, she ended up helping me with mine. The following is what I learned. As is also the case, what felt like an amazing and life-changing epiphany then, is not so life-changing now, as the feelings of the moment have worn off a bit.

Gay is not a thing. Gay or straight is not something that I am ever going to be. There will be no choice. There will be no decision. It doesn't matter whether or not I even act on it.....ever. I am. And my sexuality is part of who I am. It has no name. It just is. I will love whom I love....whoever comes along, whoever becomes a part of my life that I love. I will be open to love, if I can overcome everything that has happened to abuse.....the society in which I learned labels and so-called morality. I will not label my sexuality, because, when I do, it becomes about my sexuality, and not about me. When I label my sexuality, I become uncomfortable and anxious and worry about whether or not it's right or wrong or moral or immoral and what my familty thinks and who I'm hurting and...... When I don't label it.....when it is just a natural part of who I am, then it doesn't threaten me. I can accept it for what it it can't be separated out or named or any of that, because it isn't separate. And, when I love, it will not be a hetero or a homosexual loving. It will simply be loving.....the person that my whole being can do nothing but love.

Now, I know that's simplistic, and I know all of that will work in a perfect world, and that we don't live in that world. But you are good, bt. You are worthy of love, both the giving and the receiving. And society will find it necessary to label you. But you don't have to give into that. It won't be easy, but eventually you will just "know". And hopefully you know because no matter who that person happens to be, or what sex, you will have found the person in your life whom it is impossible not to love.


#139031 - 01/26/07 02:53 AM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction [Re: Bobby]
blueturtle Offline
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Registered: 12/19/06
Posts: 8
Loc: Eastern Washington
Man, thanks for the responses

Granted the Bible and Bible thumpers are a BIG source of -i think- my rift between this sexuality thing and "God" thing....However i do believe the abuse has played a big part. Both are good at generating a motherload of shame about sex and sexuality-"straight" or "gay"... or anything in-between... or beyond.

I started reading the "what the bible says about homos" site and will keep doing so but its so hard to counter the bible mindset with this i think. The aramaic greek and sanskrit translation bits and history are compelling to me and i guess its my mind I'm trying to change not theirs. It left me wondering if a bunch of what is said there is true what a dupe job that book* has done on us as a society... *and the people wielding it. I wonder sometimes if its (the Bible) not more a propoganda tool used over centuries than a true path back to God. Ironically both probably. It is scary to base soo much importance and power onto one book. That in and of it self seems a bit idolitoristic to me.

I heard this woman(author) on NPR a few years back who started doing reasearch on the midevial witch trials - she fallowed where they began and the path that they took on the map as they spread. Then, I think, she ran across someone doing the same research with the printing press when it was brand spanking new, or somthing like that. The maps were practically Identical- with the printing press showing up first and then witch trials erupting after. She found miriads of copies of "flyers" that were spread to incite and scare the people- those free thinking women...ooooh.

My point here(and one of hers) is that the writen word can be inhearantly deceptive. Divorced from its speaker and his/her body language and proximity- and not allowing for questions and dialog, words alone can be easily seperated from truth and used to manipulate and or control others. i.e.Propoganda.(Obviousely the internet and chat room culture might be used to support this words dont always equal truth point)...BUT then, words can also be miracuoolas, beautiful and transforming in a positive sense(insert the classic knife, the killer and the cook metaphor here).

Ok again my overly dramatized point is that one persons (or websites) words dont exactly trump anothers or the Bibles. They are just more words. They CAN help point me in good or new directions.And I am greatful for ALL your suggestions and insight. BUT how do you know whats true? I need for "it" to somehow become my own experience for "it" to really change me or my mind. That is I guess what Im in the process of doing-I hope. Ive never been really great at "learning". My brain (and heart) i think has been frozen, or cross wired maybe, in the past and in my "coping behaviors", which has made changing and new insights and understandings come sooo sloowly.

For some poeple when they read the Bible, I have heard it changes them. An awakening of sorts. Thats great and I dont doubt them. I dont think its the Bible per-se though. I think its God and He/She just uses the Bible to get our attention-our focus. Other books and paths can do the same. Thats just what I believe. I am not drawn to the Bible personally. I am not really too fond of reading actually...I know, talk about sacreligious. Ive always been more tactile and experiential in nature. I do have lots of books. And I pop em open from time to time. Even the "most accurate" Bible used by the Jehova witnessed folk.

God I am such a wind bag. I need to go but never reached what I really wanted to say. I'll go with this though... I'd love to hear about other peoples experiences of how they have "changed" their minds and hearts-for the better. Expecially spiritual experiences- but if so, in laymans words, please. Dont get too churchy on me with the christian verbage. Id love to hear it, just from personal details of real experiences in your own language -even with Jesus, thats ok, would be awesome really. Whatever it is/was, maybe itd give me some hope and inspire me. Has anyone tried Hypnotherapy? Anything other than talking therapy? EMT? Anything alternative/new age-ee? What has given you hope? Who has inspired you?

Gotta really go now (multiple meanings this time) - no time for spell check. Have mercy on me. hasta - Daniel

#139171 - 01/27/07 02:56 AM Re: what is "gay"?-w/introduction [Re: blueturtle]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Loc: Waldport, Oregon

My personal belief is that, just as the religious leaders did in Christ's time, many if not most of the religious leaders of today are more interested in what they can get for themselves out of this thing called religion than in representing the true nature of the Creator. After all, they Killed him back then. They're doing little better than than now.

So yes, It's God that works on our hearts and he'll use whatever means at his disposal including the Bible or any other thing, even our conscience, or the beauties of nature. Most of the time when men start preaching it usually works out to be counterproductive to God's purposes. Remember that Guy who pastored that huge church in Colorado till late last year? Made huge amounts of money, but was living a lie and destroying peoples faith as he did so. Seems he met his demise over the issue of homosexuality too, didn't he? Participating in that which he preached vociferously against? Creep!

Seems I remember someplace in the Old Testament where God told the prophet that he would be found in the "still, small, voice". I like that.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

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