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#132507 - 08/08/06 01:33 AM The wrong kinde of attraction
usccabum1985 Offline

Registered: 06/22/06
Posts: 43
Loc: Illinois
so, If you have read my previous posts you might know a little more about my problam. 21 years old, Virgin and having a hard time finding a first lover. so the thing that is on my mind right now is the type of girls Im attracted to. My abuser was a relitivly small girl, kinda thin, kinda short, and dark brown hair. Arghhhhhh! That is the exact de>
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#132508 - 08/08/06 03:44 AM Re: The wrong kinde of attraction
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

Perhaps it would help you to try to break away from your attraction to a very specific physical type. If this was what your abuser looked like, then I would think there is a VERY close link involved here.

It also seems to me that you equating successful relations with women in terms of who will let you have sex with them. Sex is important of course, but as we all find out sooner or later it isn't enough to sustain a relationship or make us happy.

What about looking for a girl who is fun, interesting, sincere, and genuinely interested in you? If you are with someone like this it seems to me you would have a lot better prospects for a caring and lasting relationship, including a good sexual dimension.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#132509 - 08/08/06 04:24 AM Re: The wrong kinde of attraction
lostcowboy Offline

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 798
Loc: Rhode Island
Hi Mike, ask your T, could this be some type of Sexual_fetish . From what this article says about masturbation, may be so.

Take care,

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!


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