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#131637 - 10/12/04 08:31 AM Re: What the hell is this??
yesac76 Offline

Registered: 03/23/04
Posts: 508
Loc: Idaho
No one is completly gay or straight. Just shades in between. Having those thoughts is (probably) perfectly normal. We all have thoughts that take us by suprise. Just don't beat yourself up over the thoughts, okay.

"You live it or lie it" Metallica

#131638 - 10/12/04 04:39 PM Re: What the hell is this??
Ivo Offline

Registered: 05/08/04
Posts: 267
Loc: Germany
you are not alone.
I was always able to fall in love with attractive women.
In such situations I was able to have very strong sexual desire toward women and a lot of sexual fantasies with them. But I knew all the time that I was gay and that I would never be able to keep that level of the desire on longer period. I also think that I am not able to make love at all with girls.
This thoughts almost destroyed me emotionally few months ago.
So at the end I decided to stay away from girls if I do not want to finish in mad house.

I hope that things would be better,

#131639 - 10/12/04 08:29 PM Re: What the hell is this??
Aden Offline

Registered: 07/05/04
Posts: 499
Sexual confusion. One of the more entertaining identity crises. It isnít about gay or straight. Those are false assumptions. Social/religious templates placed over the human spirit. Perhaps it seems shallow of me, but I believe in taking it as it comes.

Sexuality is not about the decisions that we make. It is about who we are. But then maybe that is just me being shallow and indecisive. I guess that I just donít get why I have to make decisions about what makes Junior stand up and pay attention. He has a mind of his own. My job is just to follow him around and keep him out of trouble.


#131640 - 11/28/04 03:43 PM Re: What the hell is this??
lostcowboy Offline

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 798
Loc: Rhode Island
Hi Marc, I know I am coming late to the thread. Are you still attracted to the girl you work with? It may be worth it to talk about the one girl you had sex with and why You think it was a disaster.

The first 10 to 15 times I had sex with a girl, I did not have a orgasm. I found out that my fear of hurting the girl I was with was the problem. I was starting to fear that I never would have a orgasm with a girl.

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!

#131642 - 12/03/04 01:51 AM Re: What the hell is this??
MollyHatchetrules Offline

Registered: 11/13/04
Posts: 31
Loc: Hoover, AL USA
There is nothing abnormal about what you're experiencing right now. Although most people probably wouldn't admit it, it happens to everyone. Think about it. The only difference between homosexuals and heterosexuals is who they are capable of falling in love with. So if heterosexuals occasionally experience an attraction to someone of the same sex, how could homosexuals not occasionally experience an attraction to someone of the opposite sex? For me it was Shania Twain. lol.

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you will join us
And the world will live as one
-John Lennon


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