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#129598 - 11/04/04 09:11 AM retreats
Mickey Offline
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Registered: 10/10/04
Posts: 13
Loc: California
I have been reading a lot about retreats, and Ihave two questions:
1. What happens on these retreats and how does they affected you?
2. How do I fin out about when and where a retreat will take place?


#129600 - 11/04/04 08:43 PM Re: retreats
Curtis St. John Offline
Past President
Registered: 01/20/04
Posts: 1798
Loc: Westchester, N.Y.

Keep your eye on the home page to see if there are up-coming retreats.

As far as attending goes, I can’t say enough for the retreats; they have taken years off my recovery.

What happens is you meet a whole bunch of guys that are just as nervous as you are. Everyone introduces themselves then the safety ground rules are set so that everyone can be comfortable knowing their boundaries won’t be breached.

There are large group exorcises that help you work through issues and there are smaller groups where you meet to discuss your story and do other exercises. The whole thing is done in a safe environment where you are truly not alone.

It is sort of like going on a roller coaster… you’re frightened and nervous going in, while you’re on you go “COOOLLL!” followed by some “AAAAHHHHHHH” and “OH SHIIIIT!” Then some “WOO-HOOO”’s

…And when you come off, you say “Boy that was GREAT! I want to go again!”

Take care,

#129601 - 11/05/04 01:22 AM Re: retreats
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2261
Loc: Maryland USA

Those guys describe it very, very well, and still fall short. So will I. (No offense, guys, but you know it has to be experienced.)

It's a challenge. It's a stretch. It's painful. It's fun. It's work. It's wonderful. It's a blessing. It's social. It's private. It's an end, and a beginning.

If you get the chance, take it.



"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#129602 - 11/05/04 03:23 AM Re: retreats
bda Offline

Registered: 10/18/04
Posts: 26
Loc: North Carolina

I just got back from a retreat, too. I stumbled across the information on the webpage. keep watching the event listings.

I've been in recovery for about 12 years, but it was the first time I've ever done anything that so community/connection oriented. It was scary and hard, but it was also one of the most wonderful experiences of my life.

I was feeling really stuck, but couldn't put my finger on what I was looking for. The chance to be in a community of other survivors was incredibly affirming. I feel more gorunded than I have in ages.

It's truly safe space. We came to agreements about what each of us needed to feel safe the first night. After that, it's just about showing up. It's a diverse group with diverse gifts -- and the facilitators were amazing.

I'd go again in a heartbeat!
Peace on the journey,

Unbind him, and let him go.

#129603 - 11/05/04 11:41 PM Re: retreats
Curtis St. John Offline
Past President
Registered: 01/20/04
Posts: 1798
Loc: Westchester, N.Y.
Joe is right, we all describe them well and still fall short...

They are... wonderful.


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