From a string of great posts under "Affirmations" I wanted to re-post this so it didn't get lost. (originally from Don-NY)
STAGE ONE: REMEMBERING
I am in a breakthrough crisis, having gained some sense of my abuse.
I have determined that I was physically, sexually or emotionally abused as a child.
I have made a commitment to recovery from my childhood abuse.
I shall re-experience each set of memories as they surface in my mind.
I accept that I was powerless over my abusers' actions which holds THEM responsible.
I can respect my shame and anger as a consequence of my abuse, but shall try not to turn it against myself or others.
I can sense my inner child whose efforts to survive now can be appreciated.
STAGE TWO: MOURNING
I have made an inventory of the problem areas in my adult life.
I have identified the parts of myself connected to self-sabotage.
I can control my anger and find healthy outlets for my aggression.
I can identify faulty beliefs and distorted perceptions in myself and others.
I am facing my shame and developing self-compassion.
I accept that I have the right to be who I want to be and live the way I want to live.
I am able to grieve my childhood and mourn the loss of those who failed me.
STAGE THREE: HEALING
I am entitled to take the initiative to share in life's riches.
I am strengthening the healthy parts of myself, adding to my self-esteem.
I can make necessary changes in my behavior and relationships at home and work.
I have resolved the abuse with my offenders to the extent that is acceptable to me.
I hold my own meaning about the abuse that releases me from the legacy of the past.
I see myself as a thriver in all aspects of life - love, work, parenting, and play.
I am resolved in the reunion of my new self and eternal soul.
"..this place isn't a discussion forum..it's a portal..." Lupin
"The truth will set you free, but first it will probably piss you off." dwf's AA sponsor.