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#122402 - 12/08/04 06:11 AM What things fear holds us back of
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
I have had a 'learning experience' today. Yes, that is what people normally call things that they don't enjoy.

Someone who think he have reason to be angry with me called me a 'has been' today. I am assuming that was referring to no longer being a competitive athlete, and was meant to hurt me. Hm. Whatever.

But thinking on that term, wow. I would SO much rather be a 'has been' then a 'never was'. Imagine what kind of life you would have, to NOT be able to be called a 'has been' at some point.

A life of no risk-taking. A life of no thrills. Places not gone to. Things not done. People not met. Words not said.

Fifty years from now, I want to look back at my life, I want to have photo albums with pictures of people, of family, of friends. Of vacations on the beach where a hurricane hit and it rained the whole week. Of someone I dated who broke my heart. Of a lot of things I can look back on, smile, and say 'What on earth was I thinking then?', rather then empty pages and wondering 'What if I had told her I love her', 'What if I had taken that vacation to Spain', 'What if I had taken a chance on my own business'.

Enough has been stolen from us in the past. Only we can allow the loss of our future.

'has been' and dam proud of it!

Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.

"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

#122403 - 12/08/04 06:22 AM Re: What things fear holds us back of
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1984
Loc: Flint, Michigan
Amen, it's your future. Make it the way you want it.

Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

#122404 - 12/08/04 06:30 AM Re: What things fear holds us back of
Andrew Offline
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Registered: 07/25/03
Posts: 1192
An absolutely excellent message Leosha! And a motto to live by. Peace, Andrew

there is no courage without anxiety

#122405 - 12/08/04 09:46 AM Re: What things fear holds us back of
FLRich Offline

Registered: 06/21/04
Posts: 1404

You have PLENTY to be proud of, and you will never be a "has been". You have to quit dreaming and living life to be a has been. Take all the chances you want to, buddy.

#122406 - 12/08/04 10:38 AM Re: What things fear holds us back of
thmbks Offline

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 10
What an inspiring message. solo

#122407 - 12/12/04 07:21 AM Re: What things fear holds us back of
ak Offline

Registered: 01/10/04
Posts: 1491
I hope some day I am lucky enough to be a 'has been'. Thank you for taking something meant as negative and making it positive. It say a lot about you.


#122408 - 12/12/04 05:10 PM Re: What things fear holds us back of
reality2k4 Offline

Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6845
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
I am sure your books will be filled with wonderful memories. From one has been, to another ;\)


Whoever stole the Sun, put it back and we'll drop all the charges!

#122409 - 12/12/04 05:30 PM Re: What things fear holds us back of
markgreyblue Offline

Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
this is a really wonderful post and thought especially now when i am feeling so down and cynical -
thanks Leosha :-)
for rekindling and reinspiring me to
walk out that front door - and
try and connect with people -


" not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous


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