It is a really good feeling to see some progress. Sometimes we can work really hard at it, and seem like nothing is happening. Then, one day we are able to see that through all of it we have grown. It is great to celebrate that with you.
The healthy sexuality thing is a challenge--to all people, not just survivors. Libido ranges from nearly zero to almost insatiable desires. Most people fall in between somewhere.
I think that as long as we see outselves as sacred people and others as sacred people, we will do well in our relationships, even the sexual one.
One time a close freind of mine, a psychiatirst and I were talking about sex. I was telling him about how beautiful it is etc. etc. He stopped me and said "Bob, sometimes it's just fun!" Realizing that sex is different completely from what we exper4ienced helps. It takes survivors longer to just have fun, but I think many do get to that point eventually.
If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.