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#12218 - 05/19/04 03:25 AM A few random thoughts, questions, and ideas(one possible trigger
parttimecop Offline

Registered: 03/05/04
Posts: 139
Thanks to this site and to God, I am making some progress. I am considering things I have not before considered.

One I am still trying to figure out what healthy sexuality is. Both from a mental/social and religious stand point. I am trying to reconcile the conflicting sides of me. The side that wants a healthy nurturing relationship with sex, and the "fantasy" side of things. I guess I am trying to figure out what is healthy and what is lust.

Two my faith is growing. I still have my vices, but I am getting better in some ways. I am at least trying to improve.

three we have a inmate in our jail is facing 300 counts of rape and 20 counts of sexual assault. that is Three Hundred. He repeatedly had sex with a little girl for 7 years until she was 14. However I am proud of the reaction from our local inmates, supossedly it was a near riot when they found out he was there. They wanted to get a hold of him. He is in a cell by himself. Unfortunately he will probably go into protective custody when he gets to prison.

#12219 - 05/19/04 04:13 AM Re: A few random thoughts, questions, and ideas(one possible trigger
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
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It is a really good feeling to see some progress. Sometimes we can work really hard at it, and seem like nothing is happening. Then, one day we are able to see that through all of it we have grown. It is great to celebrate that with you.

The healthy sexuality thing is a challenge--to all people, not just survivors. Libido ranges from nearly zero to almost insatiable desires. Most people fall in between somewhere.
I think that as long as we see outselves as sacred people and others as sacred people, we will do well in our relationships, even the sexual one.

One time a close freind of mine, a psychiatirst and I were talking about sex. I was telling him about how beautiful it is etc. etc. He stopped me and said "Bob, sometimes it's just fun!" Realizing that sex is different completely from what we exper4ienced helps. It takes survivors longer to just have fun, but I think many do get to that point eventually.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.


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