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#10194 - 10/04/02 09:59 PM Accountability
Silent1NOmore Offline
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Registered: 08/06/02
Posts: 4
Loc: Kentucky
Well, it's been several weeks since I visited this site. I wrote a letter today to the district attorney over the county/state where the abuse took place. I want to know if I'm legally obligated to report the pedophile's name to the DA on the chance abuse could still be going on with other children. I don't know what I will do next. But I do know I want the SOB held accountable.

#10195 - 10/04/02 10:48 PM Re: Accountability
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
That's probably the bravest thing you'll ever do,and I wish I had the strength to do the same.

I keep making excuses and I dont know why

Feel proud of yourself.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#10196 - 10/05/02 05:39 PM Re: Accountability
Thad Offline
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Registered: 08/28/01
Posts: 1752
Loc: Oakland, CA
It is a brave step to take.

Most requirements for reporting abuse are governed by state laws concerning mandated reporters such as therapists, social workers and teachers. I know of no law that says a victim has to report it.

Of course it raises the moral question of whether reporting it might prevent some future kid from being abused.

In choosing to report, I think it is important to look at your own needs first, i.e.: are you ready to disclose and how will that effect you

Then weigh that against the urgency of going after the abuser, i.e.: how likely it is that the abuser will continue his abuse, his access to kids, his age, record of continuing his abuse of others.

Sometimes pursuing our abuser just for revenge can be disappointing because it ultimately doesn't really help the pain we feel.

I don't have the answers, but these are my thoughts on it. Please keep in touch with us here. We need each other and to know that we are not alone.


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"The truth will set you free, but first it will probably piss you off." dwf's AA sponsor.


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