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Jump to new posts Re: Years of abuse by woodenshoes @ 12/06/16 11:30 PM

Nobodyct No one should have to go through what you did. So sorry for the hurt your feeling. You now have started down the road to try survive the after effects. Welcome to ms. We are here to support you. Glad you have a supportive wife. Take care
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: some song lyrics (maybe triggering) by john22 @ 12/06/16 08:52 PM

Thanks Izzy for this song. For reasons of convenience: Lukas Graham: "7 Years"
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Jump to new posts Re: i love you by Ceremony @ 12/06/16 07:59 PM

Excellent my friend! You are awesome, an inspiration! Love and peace!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Reflection and Hopefully A Healing One by sorryson @ 12/06/16 06:28 PM

Focusedody the poem hit home. My Mama's family is blind to their Venus Demilo missing arms or their cracks like the Liberty Bell. They are flawless too some of them, they laugh at everyone else but should have a good laugh at themselves. Everyone els
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Trigger warning, from overwrought emotions! by sorryson @ 12/06/16 06:22 PM

Ceremony I am glad to read the last post. The ups and downs can really catch us. Take care of yourself. I am glad you conselor was able to help you. Paul
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Spiritual Aspects of Healing by gaatt @ 12/06/16 04:59 PM

Thanks James, I'm no spirit healer either. Just simply curious. In my better moments, I tend to embrace the thought that what I normally judge as good has a dark side too. Similarly, the dark stuff often holds some small grain of positivity in it. K
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Getting over the cheating...helpful advice wanted by WontGiveUp @ 12/06/16 01:09 PM

Brian - your post is what I needed to see, actually ALL of them I needed to see today. I know this is an ancient thread, but I struggle with some of these same emotions that GoodHope is struggling with here. I just posted today about it in fact. W
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Do any of you struggle with trust? by WontGiveUp @ 12/06/16 12:18 PM

I know it seems like a dumb question considering what we as partners generally go through... I find myself dwelling on the past sometimes. I truly have tried to forgive and forget, and while I have the forgiveness part in place, the forget is where
Jump to new posts Re: I am a male survivor by Pjc2124 @ 12/06/16 11:07 AM

THanks Jay - Like you I have started reading the forums and searching for as much information as possible. I think I may need to find a therapist to help
Jump to new posts Re: Identity lost by woodenshoes @ 12/06/16 08:18 AM

Ttl Well said. Ws
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: is love enough? by HealingHope @ 12/06/16 12:48 AM

@kmcinva thank you for sharing this, I feel it captures my perception of where my survivor finds himself too. For me my love for him will always be enough and I know it's the thing he used to struggle to understand, he'd say I shouldn't love him beca
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapy material by zookeeper @ 12/05/16 10:35 PM

Well now doesnt that sound familiar? Sounds like I have another book to buy. Great topic. Zoo
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sharing by mikewww @ 12/05/16 05:28 PM

Thank you for the reply all very helpful..I do find myself reliving my abuse even after being out of the abuse for awhile now. It is strange but I find comfort in reliving it. I think the reason for that is I am choosing to do it verses being made to
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: * by lapchinj @ 12/05/16 04:17 PM

Hey Izzy I was trying to think of how to answer you. I was in the skin game since i was at least 9. I don't remember my life before that. That said I was taken into the porn movie business in '65. It was a year and a half of torture. I dreaded going
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Problem with emotions by zookeeper @ 12/05/16 01:54 PM

Thanks Unhappy Camper (I always liked Jefferson Airplane). The PTSD has kicked my behind recently and Im sure that this is part of the whole mess. I guess I may be "chasing rabbits". Thanks John Zookeeper-Brian
Jump to new posts Special by Ceremony @ 12/05/16 11:28 AM

To be that person, To be there, with them... To be special!
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: A Letter to My Dead Mother by 30something @ 12/04/16 04:34 PM

Jump to new posts Re: poem 68, old enemies by focusedbody @ 12/03/16 11:34 PM

DE: This is good for me to read. There are of course some answers that come to my mind, but even answers don't really have a permanent place in the land you describe. But what is truly evident is the space you leave for the presence you consider a
U.S. & World News
The "why" question about why nothing more was said other than victim blaming, was because the officials were afraid of the complete story igniting a riot(s)... That's how I see it. I think those two monsters need to be put down, oh... hum
Jump to new posts Re: Dark and light by Ceremony @ 12/03/16 10:44 AM

Remember being held close, loved? No Remember sitting with someone, talking, warm, just relaxing.... Yes Remember good meals, shared, talk and any little nicety was Ok? Yes Remember knowing it will end, knowing those people, those friends, tha
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: An interesting cartoon from the web about shame by HealingHope @ 12/03/16 04:05 AM

Thanks for bumping wgu, it totally backs up some reading I've done on the subject too. Guilt & shame our survivors feel is like a safety messaging saying what happened was very very wrong and what they are actually seeing is the perpetrators proj
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