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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Problems With Medical Appointments by zookeeper @ 27 minutes 21 seconds ago

Indeed I understand. I have a flashback/nightmare issue with the taste of blood and other things in my mouth. So I have avoided dental care. But once I spoke with the doc, they let me know that there are ways they can help. I just had to be brave eno
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: He'll of a week by Nothing Man @ Today at 09:40 AM

Oh no, that is a nightmare. I'm so sorry for you and your friend. Nobody should ever have to go through something like that. There are people in this world who are just plain evil.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Away time by HealingHope @ Today at 09:05 AM

Hi whiteflag Thank you for this and I'm so sorry about your situation, it's seems so confusing doesn't it, when so many survivors here talk about having a special someone has been a major factor in their healing? I'm in that place I so often find my
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: cries of the lone wolf by zookeeper @ Today at 03:33 AM

My Friend I can hear the pain in your words and want you to know that, in a way, you are not alone. Im so very sorry for the pain that has been thrust on you. Praying the you find what you need to support you on your journey to recovery. Your Frien
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Addiction by devon46 @ Yesterday at 10:17 PM

thanks buddy ,i'm slowly feeling like maybe it's ok for me to be here.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Ativan/Lorazapam question by Buddy75 @ Yesterday at 05:53 PM

Thanks I got taken off ativan im trying klonopin.. hope it likes me better
Jump to new posts Re: I joined today and want to say HI to you by devon46 @ Yesterday at 12:25 PM

welcome ,not only are you not alone ,your not the only newbie ,i just joined to
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Night Terrors by PhoenixRising @ Yesterday at 10:26 AM

Do you have people and a space that you can stay. People that you trust and can help keep you in the present. I know night terrors..they feed on us, we feed them. They can't actually hurt you now, but of course it feels like they can and will..for me
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Porn healing ideas/ community project by WG @ Yesterday at 08:51 AM

......and finding that in reality whoever it is on the screen we are watching aren't truly there, don't know we are there, cannot and will not ever know us, don't love us as we deserve to be loved and that it feeds into another addiction - and we're
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How do you guys manage breakdowns? by ForeverFighting @ 07/26/16 11:02 PM

I totally agree, Paul. I’ve had that kind of breakdown, too. Where everything seems overwhelming to the point of loss of hope. If that’s the kind of breakdown we’re talking about here, I completely misunderstood. Those are so difficult that
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts You Hurt Me And I Remember by zookeeper @ 07/26/16 09:10 PM

You hurt me. You probably don't remember the days, but I will never forget them. The knife-like looks.The words like clubs, beating the flesh already wounded by you, by others. Pain has a vocabulary of its own, and you have mastered it with fluency.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapist says I'm stuck as a teenager by PhoenixRising @ 07/26/16 07:01 PM

Beautiful Danny!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Staying Open by DannyT @ 07/26/16 06:44 PM

BDD, Sounds like you're in for some good healing. THere's nothing like the safe and healthy presence of another good person in one's life. And it sounds like you're really getting the inner sense of him that he really is trustworthy. THese are the
Jump to new posts Re: Hey guys (possible trigger warning) by woodenshoes @ 07/26/16 05:56 PM

Nathan You have made the first step in acknowledging what happen. You were to young to understand and give permission. You will overcome the past by moving forward in the present. You need to understand no one was there protecting the young boy y
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: shifting focus so therapy is about the present by woodenshoes @ 07/26/16 05:36 PM

Well said! Ws
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Victim mindset by DannyT @ 07/26/16 05:13 PM

I'm with Eric and unhappycamper...they got it dead on for me. And yes, it can go away. Like ForeverFighting said, we are doing it together. Danny
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: i love you by Sterling @ 07/26/16 04:18 PM

i feel like i ahve have to be peradnoid. f or them. i have to be aware that ibllie knows what i am. not here. billie wants to g be gay. i think. i have to trust my intiuition. i dont' know who i am . my dad wont let me. i am supposed to eat.
Male Survivors
Jevin and Sterling Thank you both for your encouragement and for your very enlightening insights to this program. In the last year I have been grieving my lost childhood and it just happens that every ACoA meeting I have attended (so far 4 of them)
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Verbal Assault Today by Buddy75 @ 07/25/16 08:43 PM

Something similar happens to me I walk off leash 3 medium white dogs around 4am and I have a neighbor that waits for me in his truck and yell at me to pick up my dogs crap, and to keep them on leash- there is nobody walking about at 4am so I let my
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts benefits of taking time away from words by DannyT @ 07/25/16 07:34 PM

Hey guys, I sometimes struggle with a voice in my head that just won't shut up. Many threads in the last few weeks have talked about voices in different ways, too. I've been finding it helpful to make some parts of the day voice free for a while. E
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Self abuse by Elad1 @ 07/25/16 07:16 PM

Phoenix Rising, I am really glad you are talking to a therapist. What I am understanding from the conversation in this thread is the capacity to love someone. After months of work with my therapist addressing my csa just a couple of weeks ago he sai
Jump to new posts Re: hi thanks for the inspiration by manipulated @ 07/25/16 06:33 PM

As others have said welcome and sorry you are here. Please know you are not alone. I hid from the abuse for 40+years and when I could not hide any longer it exploded my life. You have already taken 2 huge steps: you came here and poste; and you told
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Anxiety by 30something @ 07/24/16 10:28 PM

Not insane, (((iaccus))). One breath at a time. One foot in front of the other. We got this. Asa
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Is abuse ever a temporary thing? by 30something @ 07/24/16 10:26 PM

"A controlling parent is only looking for love themselves." "We can change." Thank you for injecting hope during these crazy times (internally and globally). Asa
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: who am I? (possible triggers) by DannyT @ 07/24/16 06:28 PM

racool, I have a couple of thoughts about the voices. 1. Sometimes it helps me to ask questions, like where did you come from? etc. to see what's really going on. If it is cutting me down, "why now?" I might ask. Doing this helps me see
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