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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Thoughts on Anger by Magellan @ 04/26/17 01:49 PM

I'm an expert at anger! I grew up very angry. Angry at the universe. Angry at society. Angry at my genetics. Angry at my parents. It's taken me a very long time, but ultimately, my task was to let go of all that anger. I made the biggest choice
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Session with a therapist by Shyshark @ 04/26/17 12:42 PM

Hi takingitslow ... I'm sorry that you didn't get all that you had hoped for in the session but I think your expectations may not have fit the reason for the session. You said 'special therapist' ... he can comment on what he thinks but that will ha
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: So Lonely by Winterfr3sh @ 04/26/17 12:23 PM

thank you all for your input and relating to me. I don't feel as alone anymore, and I learned from all of your perspectives
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Re: Just need help knowing the world is compassionate by physicsfriend @ 04/26/17 11:27 AM

My field is extremely male-dominated although certainly not what I'd call "masculine" (the physical sciences is full of nerds). For what it's worth though, everyone there that knows at least something of the abuse and control that I put up
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
HC1990, And yesterday, this appeared on MS: DJ Zeke Thomas reveals rapes and father's support I found the father's support, Isiah Thomas of basketball fame: Isiah Thoms Bio to be moving.
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
I hope you'll check this article out. Then see it was liked 4.5 million times. That's a lot of support. His peers are supportive too. UK former footballer reveals abuse I think we're in an atmosphere of bullying triggers at present. The news and
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Just need help knowing the world is compassionate by HowardCosell1990 @ 04/26/17 10:50 AM

I've always had stereotypically "masculine" interests - sports, history, pro wrestling, etc. Unfortunately, over the last few months I've developed a silly paranoia that if people involved in these fields knew that I was a 21-year-old adult
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Update: How much pain and loneliness can I stand by DanielQ432 @ 04/26/17 10:35 AM

Finding a specialist is critical, IMHO. Going to see a general therapist who treats patients for everything from substance abuse to marital issues is like going to see a family practice doctor to treat a complex issue like a malignant glioma.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Session with a therapist by LinEar @ 04/26/17 09:42 AM

Originally Posted By CeremonyTurns out dumb luck is a very bad choice to become deeply in love. I'm sorry for your situation, Ceremony, but I have to say that this is one of the strongest bits of wisdom I've read here at MS.
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Hello, just joined by WG @ 04/26/17 09:17 AM

Welcome, Max. I used to think I was so alone - and we most of the time did truly feel alone for so very long. No longer. Here, you'll find compassion and understanding. Here you'll find those brothers who will care and listen. As you move through you
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sad by WG @ 04/26/17 09:04 AM

Jer - So sorry you had this experience. IT shouldn't be the 'norm' in here since we're told this is a safe place and 'safe places' shouldn't have these things happening. Sometimes it's difficult to ascertain the tone of what someone has typed in on a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Session with a therapist by WG @ 04/26/17 08:56 AM

I'd like to weigh in on this - I ,too, had to shop around to find a T that fit. The first one was quite good, but focused on different parts of the abuse that I didn't think were all that important. The 2nd one rarely spoke - I had to keep pushing th
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Session with a therapist by traveler @ 04/26/17 08:33 AM

to provide a balance, let me share my experience. i am not trying to be argumentative - just show that results can differ widely. i have worked with two therapists, one back when i was in my 30s and another just 5 years ago - with a couple of decade
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sad by motmcd @ 04/26/17 08:08 AM

I'm sorry for your experience, Jer. I hope you find productive, meaningful interactions here at MS. In my experience, such positive interactions are the norm. Peace and cheers, Tom
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Session with a therapist by Ceremony @ 04/26/17 06:58 AM

I've been developing a bit of a bias takingitslow. I did a lot of checking for a therapist when I decided to find one. Let me back up just a tad, I have had some experiences with therapists, which I am unhappy. Two of them, and it was an important ti
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sad by Free Radical @ 04/26/17 06:49 AM

Jer I've been in chat with you several times and i sincerely hope that i haven't made you feel this way in any way. I know exactly what you mean. I'm terribly sensitive to belittling and etc too. You have as much right to speak here and to be heard
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Jump to new posts Re: S) Yesterday by tommyb @ 04/26/17 06:23 AM

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Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: S) Yesterday by tommyb @ 04/26/17 06:19 AM

__________ (morning) 'Had shifted to Willahford's eyes: "We're going on a good trip." 'Cept we never speak outloud, but still hear each other. 'Very Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, 'cept not until Jim Carry and Kate Winslet are
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sad by Tom E. @ 04/26/17 02:51 AM

Jer I'm sorry you get negative reactions here. I wouldn't expect that. Try not to take any negativity to heart. A.A. has an expression: "take what you like, and leave the rest" I hope this helps at least a little bit.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: So Lonely by Tom E. @ 04/26/17 02:36 AM

Hi Winterfr3sh I'm an introvert too. I deal with 1 on 1 social interaction ok. Small groups of people pretty well too, but I will usually not want to be the center of attention much or for long. If it gets too busy or noisy and I get uncomfortable
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Session with a therapist by takingitslow @ 04/26/17 12:58 AM

Ceremony feel free to comment .......
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sad by Shyshark @ 04/26/17 12:43 AM

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I've been sitting here for a while trying to write a decent response ... but I know too many expletives. I was a little shocked to hear what you said ... but sadly ... not at all surprised. I'd like to make excu
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Hello, just joined by nomad510 @ 04/26/17 12:13 AM

Greetings, You started. And you're on the right path. You made me think how unhelpful our society is especially for male sex abuse survivors. We're expected to be tough and just bury it. However as you noticed it doesn't work. Luckly for us ther
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sad by Ceremony @ 04/25/17 10:57 PM

Sorry to read that Jer. This is the first time we've had a chance to interact, that I can recall. I know how it can feel to feel less than. I'm really sorry that's what you're going through. Miscommunication that I find myself doing, does the same fe
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