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Male Survivors
When I experienced nightmares & terrors in '15, I went to the church for help when in fact I was in need of treatment for csa associated trauma. After a year of things only progressively getting worse, I finally was fortunate to finally connect w
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by Ceremony @ 02/21/17 12:00 PM

Thank you oic. I'm glad to be around to read your reflections and self awareness. It means a lot to me, as you've noted the validation means to you. Witnessing brothers here working on the very difficult thinking about our suppressed, and other traum
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Celibate for life by greenwizard @ 02/21/17 11:55 AM

Personally, I wouldn't go making such a radical decision. You never know what's going to happen in the future. For me it took the right woman and the right situation. It was a blind date set up that at the time I really wanted nothing to do with,
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by oic @ 02/21/17 11:50 AM

(((Kevin))) When we first began speaking over a year ago, we were both a mess if my memory serves me correctly. Thank you for the truths you've helped me to see. I was so numb for so many years, experiencing emotions is a relatively new phenomenon f
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Is something wrong with me? (possible triggers) by greenwizard @ 02/21/17 11:47 AM

Thanks everyone. After some sleep I feel a little better. It took a lot of tossing and turning, but at some point I fell asleep. My girlfriend also did lots of assuring that she loves me for who I am. My girlfriend knows, my father's death was
Male Survivors
Kevin - it sounds strange to say it, but this really does seem like good news. I am so glad for you that you have received some assurance of the other boy's remorse and regret. that must be a very healing thought. I hope that it will help you to mo
Male Survivors
I wish to send good thoughts of prayer, and understanding to you, to all you've mentioned in need and those helping. I have followed as closely as I can, and am trying not to cry for the good sadness of it all. The clarity and sort of cleaning house
Male Survivors
Greenwizard I think the abuse changes how we think of ourselves and this reflects onto others. They see our need to please, to conform and accept how we are treated--for many of us believe we deserved the abuse as guilt and shame control. Your firs
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by KMCINVA @ 02/21/17 10:42 AM

OIC Well said and I am happy you are seeing the truths and not the lies and manipulation. The latter are the most difficult to overcome due to grooming, manipulation and for some the need to please. I am sorry you endured such atrocities from you
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Terrible Nightmare/Flashback Brings Some Clarity by KMCINVA @ 02/21/17 10:21 AM

This may sound strange because to me I never expected a nightmare and flashback to bring clarity or even the thought of hope. Last night was a terrible night of nightmares and flashbacks but in a way helped to bring clarity to a part of the abuse I
U.S. & World News
Originally Posted By Chase EricThere has been a news story in our community yesterday regarding a child molestation at a local park. A friend of mine, who happens to be a big fan of Milo, had quite a discussion about the molestation, with everyone s
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by oic @ 02/21/17 10:17 AM

Thanks (((traveler))) And everyone here at MS who has put up with my rants & ramblings of the past year. Without you, I could never have opened my eyes to these truths and alas begun to heal. I think it gives credence to one of of the affirmati
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Jump to new posts Re: Milo advocating for intergenerational relationship by Wheatthins @ 02/21/17 10:02 AM

Normally I wouldn't doubt someone claiming to be abused. Milo is the exception to that rule. The paper trail of his outlandish claims and comments regarding every and all subjects is miles long.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by traveler @ 02/21/17 09:34 AM

oic - it is so good that you are replacing all of their implied and overt lies with your own truths. keep on believing in the truth and moving forward. lee
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by oic @ 02/21/17 09:08 AM

Thank you! (((Manipulated))) I hope u know I'm a fan of yours. Seems a health scare sparked all this reflection and attention to these matters in the first place and I'm experiencing that again so I'm reevaluating a lot of stuff at present. Your wor
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: my relationship guide by dark empathy @ 02/21/17 08:25 AM

Actually Green wizard, the fact that you didn't enjoy it and weren't comfortable rings something of alarm bells for me. even when your focused on someone else's pleasure, it should not automatically be unpleasant for you, indeed both for myself and
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Is something wrong with me? (possible triggers) by traveler @ 02/21/17 08:01 AM

greenwizard - i too lost my father at a young age - so i get that, and i too was a good kid just trying to be accepted. you asked: "Did someone tattoo 'easy target' on my forehead and I just didn't notice?" actually, that is pretty much
Male Survivors
"whether it was the lack of a male role model from being raised by a single mother, or it's just in my DNA, I am a classic submissive personality whose self esteem is often in the toilet." You've suffered a major loss (your Dad died) at
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Jump to new posts Re: What made you feel good today? by manipulated @ 02/21/17 06:26 AM

Dinner with my adult independent daughter. Walk in a cemetary with my dog without a coat in February. In Michigan. Daughters and dogs. Unconditional love.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by manipulated @ 02/21/17 06:22 AM

Oic Wow. Powerful statements of truth. I hope when the emotion settles you see the strength and poweryou just took back from the hypocritical perps in this one small post.
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Sometimes I feel... by Tom E. @ 02/21/17 02:51 AM

Sometimes I feel that I don't want to be gay, I want a wife & family, all that. I wonder how I would have turned out if I hadn't been exposed to gay sex at such a young age... maybe more bisexual or something.. I'm a "bottom" mostly in
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Thoughts on Dealing With OCD, CSA, and SSA by 1islandboy @ 02/21/17 02:35 AM

Bradley, Funny you should mention, "50 First Dates" I have been called that many times by my friends, in a joking fashion. The whole OCD thing has calmed down for me, (I respect it can come back at anytime). I used to have a thing for l
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Complicated truth. Will it set me free? by oic @ 02/21/17 02:32 AM

Not only was I a sex slave for 15 years (ages 5-20), I was a slave to the unrealistic expectations of a # of adults and religious fundamentalism. I pretended for many years my childhood was good. Now I know it was nothing less than extremely messed u
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Is something wrong with me? (possible triggers) by greenwizard @ 02/21/17 12:54 AM

I'm feeling like the emotional abuse I suffered at the hands of my first girlfriend was my fault. I just rolled over and let it happen because hey, at least a pretty girl was on my arm. That's what we want out of life, is it not? When writing that
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Milo advocating for intergenerational relationship by MojaveMike @ 02/21/17 12:35 AM

Milo is clearly in denial about his own victimization.
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