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Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Eternal18 @ 10/11/17 10:48 PM

Manipulated. Thank you for your kind words Sir
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I can't take it anymore. I just can't take it. by MeditativeCycler @ 10/11/17 09:31 PM

Thank you for your kind words everyone. I'm feeling a bit better today; some days you just need a little bit of a handheld from others, you know?
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Caretaking & Feeling Insecure by Chris4TheMill @ 10/11/17 09:07 PM

Thanks LonewolfX and WG, I know you guys have some tough situations too. Right now I feel overwhelmed. Between my own health issues and all my other pressures, the rehab facility that my Dad is in now is trying to discharge him by this Friday. Th
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: About me by Shyshark @ 10/11/17 08:36 PM

Hi Cave Dweller. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I was 3 years old when it began and by the age of 7 there had been 4 perps (15-ish to early 20's) and 1 incident at the age of 9 when my priest (early 50's)shoved his had down my pants. I
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: deciding to quit porn by SmartShadow @ 10/11/17 06:52 PM

Originally Posted By zookeeper Thanks for being open with your journey. This is a huge battle for me. I am looking at my porn use and what it is taking from me. Your words have given me much to consider. Hey Brian, Thank you for your continued supp
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: deciding to quit porn by Jay1946 @ 10/11/17 06:13 PM

Originally Posted By SmartShadow This website is my recovery group I SECOND THAT!
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: deciding to quit porn by SmartShadow @ 10/11/17 06:04 PM

Hey Chris and Tom, I have been to a few church 12 step groups so I know the format. But it's not safe in most setting for men to open up and talk about things like sexual addiction or csa. It was really just a bunch of guys reinforcing how to preten
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by AuthenticMe @ 10/11/17 05:40 PM

Hi Chris, Well said. Feeling anger is an important step in the healing process, but staying there can be counter-productive. Anger can be toxic or cathartic (or both). Re-directing the anger I had at myself for being abused to the rightful target (t
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Chris4TheMill @ 10/11/17 04:59 PM

I have written a few times how when I finally began releasing my own supressed anger, it empowered me in such profound ways that I would not have recovered nearly as much if that anger was still all bottled up and pushed down. But it is true that yo
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For me I don't think of anger as a gift. Friends in college tried to get me to open up instead of having a very think emotional wall around me, but once I started exploding in anger it was hard to stop. I don't express my anger at people. I break thi
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Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Chase Eric @ 10/11/17 04:21 PM

Eternal - It's funny how we sometimes wish we could have the other person's attributes. I think anger would have been healthy for me and probably more empowering. My "calmness" was in part due to the fact that I always had to check my e
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Jump to new posts Re: i dont love you. by Sterling @ 10/11/17 04:13 PM

ifiguredouitnot not a gonurt asdkl;fja;dkjadfkl;jafj;asd;fjk I wanst allowed to be . yorgure. my brain has to think for them. he is loser. they are all losers, even my mom. how can you talk tlike this ? ahhhh fuck off! don't need ya. but I do
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Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Eternal18 @ 10/11/17 03:45 PM

Thanks Eric Your story was really something to behold. I enjoyed the read even though parts were horrifying. You have an amazing calmness that I wish I could match. The anger is really bad, it makes me impulsive and capable of self harm. I need to
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Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by manipulated @ 10/11/17 03:35 PM

Eternal, I am so sorry for what brings all of us here but glad you found ms and know you are no longer alone. Here ARE men who know, understand and feel or felt the same from the actions of predators. So glad you are tackling this in your 30someth
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Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Chase Eric @ 10/11/17 02:57 PM

Hi, Eternal18 - We all have such different ways of surviving and evolving from our experiences of abuse as kids. Dark and angry? Take heart that you are certainly not the only one who feels that way. That said, anger was not the emotional track
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Jump to new posts Re: When to divorce? by 30something @ 10/11/17 02:34 PM

House, I feel for you and hope you can keep your chin up until you recover. Your freedom/moving out is something to look forward to. Don't forget that, brother. You deserve it. Also thank you TJ for understanding the struggle. You have good points.
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Jump to new posts Re: did I burn bridges here? by 30something @ 10/11/17 02:15 PM

((( usmc97 )))
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Jump to new posts Re: My Messed Up Life by AuthenticMe @ 10/11/17 02:08 PM

Jboogz - Been there as well. Lot's of good advice here, and I think that there's something to be said for making it to the third round of interviews. Even though the last one may not have gone the way you wanted it to, your ability to advance as far
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts About me by Cave Dweller @ 10/11/17 01:19 PM

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Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: deciding to quit porn by zookeeper @ 10/11/17 12:19 PM

Mike Thanks for being open with your journey. This is a huge battle for me. I am looking at my porn use and what it is taking from me. Your words have given me much to consider. Thanks B
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Trial Completed by zookeeper @ 10/11/17 12:15 PM

Thank you for your bravery in pursuing this. I admire you willingness to fight for justice in this. Bravo my friend. Zoo
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: My Messed Up Life by Eternal18 @ 10/11/17 11:21 AM

Totally relate
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Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Eternal18 @ 10/11/17 11:00 AM

Hi Ceremony Thanks for sharing your experience and the methodology that you are following in therapy. I will read up on EMDR I've never heard the term. Yes I have a trek ahead of me like none other to recover.
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: My life, My declaration �Trigger Warning.� by Eternal18 @ 10/11/17 10:57 AM

Thanks Chris.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: When should one give up? - (sry long story) by dark empathy @ 10/11/17 08:21 AM

Hi Sunflower. I've considered replying to this topic for a while, but oddly enough Lome said very much what I would've said. On the one hand I'm a surviver of sa myself, on the other I am married to a wonderful lady who was trapped herself into s
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