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Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Camelot the City on a Hill by Hoss @ 8 minutes 43 seconds ago

Matthew 5:14-16 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before other
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: 1in6 lie/agenda about orientation and abuse by jlc @ 10 minutes 17 seconds ago

Interesting stuff Hoss. I've been contemplating this for a long time as it pertains to my situation. I was victimized by an older female cousin when I was 7. Once i got in my 20's I sought out guys for sex even though I was attracted to girls. I'
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Jump to new posts Re: Be All that You can Be by Hoss @ 59 minutes 3 seconds ago

Originally Posted By greenwizardBack when my friend S was a marine he had to lie about being gay. He thought the whole thing was horse shit because who he was physically attracted to did not affect his ability to serve. He said sure, he thought som
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Virtual EMDR: my experience by fhorns @ Today at 09:52 AM

I recently shared this with another survivor here, and I know I needed to give more exposure. We have more choice than we thought we did (I'm learning this now). I began with MS back in 2002. I had been in 12 step rooms in college ('96-00), but so
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Constant triggers by anonDK @ Today at 09:49 AM

Yeah, I'm like constantly triggered these days. Colors, certain things people wear, like, all the time. I seem to have discovered a new 'me'. A very healthy me. Who knows what is good for me. And tries to act accordingly. A healthy me. That wants
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Very interesting article .. by anonDK @ Today at 06:13 AM

I found this to be helpful. Mainly because it's a personal story, and it sort of affirms me .. Calms me a little. Triggers can actually be helpful in scrapping information, what really happened. This is affirming and validating to me, as I tend to av
Male Survivors
Thank you so much for the update, SamV. It's very helpful. In my case I'm not aware of having had any high blood pressure. For years it's always been 120/80. I stay away from action movies and anything else that causes me anxiety. I empathize too m
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Jump to new posts Re: The Recipe Book by greenwizard @ Yesterday at 11:54 PM

Chicken Monteray 4-6 chicken breasts 1 bottle bbq sauce 8-18 slices bacon 2c shredded cheddar jack Wrap bacon slices around chicken and place in baking pan. Mix bbq sauce and cheese, and spread over chicken. Cover and bake at 350 45-60 minutes, u
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Umm... by greenwizard @ Yesterday at 10:12 PM

I think I really like this guy. I've been depressed for a few days, but today was bad. I cried before I started making dinner for us. He came over and I guess my puffy eyes gave me away. Not only did that not scare him off, but we talked about it
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Chester Bennington's life may help male sex abuse by sorryson @ Yesterday at 04:20 PM

Kevin and Ceremony as you know my Dad tried suicide twice because of CSA and what we did to him and my brother because of what was done to him and what he had done led him to try suicide. I am glad both survived their attempts. My brother told the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Looking in the mirror of my mental illness by sorryson @ Yesterday at 04:07 PM

Ceremony I like your post. The conference talk is something my counselor has me do. I have to admit at first I felt a little stupid talking to myself as though the other part was someone else. I learned we all have different parts. Some parts coexis
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: A small Hi by sorryson @ Yesterday at 03:54 PM

Hi Poo--all hellos are welcomed here. It takes a celebrity to bring forward the issue and I am glad you found your way here. This site has helped me. I am not overly active and take time off from the site. It has helped me to understand my CSA and
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Dissociation Benign vs Malevolent by sorryson @ Yesterday at 03:48 PM

I learned my Dad suffered dissociation, and we all denied it and said he was a liar. The doctors today have told us it is real for many CSA survivors. I accepted their word but decided to do some reading and found this interesting article. There were
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Altruism by Hoss @ Yesterday at 02:50 PM

Research has shown that altruism makes for happier people and happier lives. This can be accomplished by giving of both time and/or money. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/07/170711112441.htm http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/30/he
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Current thoughts by Chris4TheMill @ Yesterday at 01:48 PM

9lifes, These types of issues do come up a lot here. It is true that during abuse, our brains are high-jacked by the trauma, forming sexual arousal pathways. I don't want to start a debate of which came first, the orientation or the abuse, but fac
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Jump to new posts Re: i love you by Sterling @ Yesterday at 01:32 PM

they kept saving me. i wouldnt tell anyone. this is sick. i have. nve tyou. sont won my mom was. or my dad. but he knew. he didnt care. i keep saying police. what will they do? what if this is something they dont want to get into.?
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Here I am - intro by CelloL @ Yesterday at 01:32 PM

Thank you all for your encouraging posts. They are all very helpful to me. I had a lot of anxiety on my first visits to this site. I was even shaking and my heart was pounding. There is so much to think about. There were also a rough few days aft
Discussion Board Questions
Jump to new posts Re: I'd like to get in touch with a greeter by Sterling @ Yesterday at 01:31 PM

Hey Alonso , if you haven't yet ... send your questions to the Mod Team. Someone there will help you out. take care. link.. http://www.discussion.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showprofile&User=3049
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Experiences with Cialis? by Chris4TheMill @ Yesterday at 01:12 PM

Hey James! Thanks so much for replying to this post. I found your link interesting and will read the stories, thanks. No, I only welcome your contributions and am happy you chimed in. So here's an update...saw my Primary Care doc the other day an
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: Healing? by Sterling @ Yesterday at 01:12 PM

Right on oic ! james
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: A Feminist Sticks Up For Men Like Shia LeBeouf by Chris4TheMill @ Yesterday at 12:52 PM

Originally Posted By SubtleStuff I frequently fear the anger women can put out for their male violence victim stories.... Yes, Subtle Stuff, thanks for reviving this thread. So much food for thought that you have brought up. You mentioned being th
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I've gotten use to these feelings by Sterling @ Yesterday at 12:44 PM

You know , I know you are not asking for this. But a decade in going ( beginning of my therapy.) I had to make sound. I could try to talk this out...but it wouldn't change everything. My rage was still in me. So I needed to practise. I wanted to fe
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: is balance really a good thing? by greenwizard @ Yesterday at 12:44 PM

Well right now I'm feeling pretty bad about myself thinking about school and just all the things I struggled with. Math period was a nightmare. I still remember trying to learn multiplication in 3rd grade. There was this test we all took, and if y
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts The Holy Grail by Hoss @ Yesterday at 11:38 AM

Our minds are like cups, or plates, in which we hold food for thought and assimilate/incorporate within our psyche. If we dwell on the negative, we can't realize the positive, or our strengths. Some hunting dogs won't hunt. Some make better drug

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