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Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: I want to help my son. by dark empathy @ Today at 06:21 PM

Hi jewel girl. I don't know how introverted your son is, but being alone is definitely! a coping mechanism. several times my mum asked if it would help me to move back in with them, to which I always answered no. Obviously it depends upon your s
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Music that moves me. by Ceremony @ Today at 06:13 PM

Speaking of triggers and music I use to fight... techno industrial, sort of that Goth techno, smart, loud, fast... I think some few will get how this song represents outside influences try to get into controlling more and more of life. Then there ar
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Admitting to myself by Bluedogone @ Today at 06:06 PM

(((Bryce))) I think you've made a giant leap of progress today. By hitting the submit button, and using a title like "Admitting to Myself" takes a pretty big amount of courage and bravery. It's no small feat to honestly and openly share i
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Admitting to myself by Ceremony @ Today at 05:24 PM

(((Bryce))) It becomes and honor to be among men here on MS. We get to know each other in ways that only we can know. It's so hard to deal with the talking in the beginning. Then, slowly, emotions come into play, and that's the shared work that I see
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Admitting to myself by Nothing Man @ Today at 04:59 PM

Bryce, We children are not responsible for the evil done to us by others, especially those who are older. The fault lies with those who raped us and abused us even if we may have enjoyed what was being done to us. A ten year old child is not capabl
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Admitting to myself by Tom E. @ Today at 03:04 PM

Bryce I'm sorry that anal rape was made to be normal for you at 10 or so. How awful. That really sucks. Your uncle & your mom in collusion with it.. dreadful. It pisses me off how evil elders can be, using children that way.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Admitting to myself by oic @ Today at 02:48 PM

(((((Bryce))))) What a huge step! Congratulations. You have much to be proud of with yourself. "It" formed us. "It" was what we knew. "It" became & was our normal. "It" made us feel special. "It&quo
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Admitting to myself by Bryce @ Today at 02:31 PM

I have struggled with writing this down. I have started and deleted it many times. I know I have said how much I do care for and love my family and that I have a hard to saying what happened was abuse. I know rationally it was but I just have things
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: I want to help my son. by jewelgirl50 @ Today at 01:08 PM

WG I definitely understand the historical nature of the sexual abuse issues. I grew up in the 50's and 60's where we didn't even lock our doors. As young children we were gone from daybreak to sundown, running around in the neighborhood and in the
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: I want to help my son. by jewelgirl50 @ Today at 12:56 PM

Dark Empathy I really needed to hear your words this morning. I get very depressed and anxious when my son needs to be alone. This has happened only one other time and impacts me greatly to the point where I am basically immobilized. I need to take
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Emotional empathy versus compassion empathy by Mishka95673 @ Today at 11:57 AM

Emotional empathy is very hard for supporters because feeling what our loved ones are feeling drains us of our own energy and damages the health of the supporter. Compassion empathy on the other hand may be a much healthier approach because it allows
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Music that moves me. by Cirillo @ Today at 10:27 AM

I know some of these songs can have harsh words...so if any offend...look at them from a different Point of View. There is a reason they mean something, sometimes it isn't what you think it is...there is depth to them.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: I want to help my son. by WG @ Today at 09:11 AM

jweelgirl - You're most welcome. I never told anyone for almost 50 years - my abuse happened longer ago than most people on this site have been alive. Back then, there were few, if any laws against all of this. CPS didn't exist. Social programs were
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Jump to new posts Re: My Dad was the sane one. by Chris4TheMill @ Today at 09:00 AM

George, I followed a similar theme. Because of my horrible experiences growing up with my drunk mother and her drinking buddies, to this day I dislike being around anyone who is drunk or high. My mother thought it nothing to go out to a bar with
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shattered by WG @ Today at 09:00 AM

Tyler - Oh, my. Since there's evidence, and as Blue said, you know where it is, you could go to the police. These individuals - I hesitate to call them 'men' - should be brought up on charges. What was done was a crime - and as we all know in here,wi
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Jump to new posts Re: My Dad was the sane one. by George @ Today at 08:32 AM

Elad1, your story reminds me of all the drunkenness around my own childhood, the fights, cops coming to the house, etc. To this day I'm turned off to drinking, I've never been drunk or high a day in my life due to all that I witnessed growing up. I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shattered by Bluedogone @ Today at 08:26 AM

((((Tyler)))) I'm so sorry to hear of this added trauma on top of another trauma. It's more than anyone should be expected to face. But hold on to the truths you already know. You' ve already dealt with part of it so bravely, know that you will dea
Poetry
Jump to new posts When are they gonna pay by Ceremony @ Today at 08:02 AM

When are they gonna pay those wretched who betray and justice is so blind the victim can feel left behind Re-victimized, those indifferent and obtuse minimizing the effects of any abuse and marginalized as we are, so many like us, near and far I shou
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: They'll Never Learn by George @ Today at 07:41 AM

Certainly aggravating that they can be so obtuse...
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shattered by Ceremony @ Today at 07:22 AM

TylerZ, I'm sorry you discovered another very painful betrayal. It does make some sense, how exposed your childhood was to your main abuser. Full support and hope for you, and I hear the shock, and see the strength or determination that's hinted i
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shattered by DanielQ432 @ Today at 07:01 AM

Tyler, what happened to you was an abomination. I spend a lot of time asking why the universe lets evil happen, but I never get an answer. You may never know why they betrayed you. But justice is coming to them. Your justice, your outcome, need
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shattered by George @ Today at 06:58 AM

((((Tyler)))) Oh man, I'm so sorry you were blind sided by that surfacing, but you can & will get past even this. We are all here for you, you're not alone in this.
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Jump to new posts Re: Dental work by Chris4TheMill @ Today at 06:24 AM

Tw16, I confess that after reading your last post, I am confused by your situation and would probably have tons of questions. But regardless of what those issues really look like, here is what I say: 1) You have needs 2) You have opportunity 3
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Are ALL women this awful? Or is it just me? by dark empathy @ Today at 06:15 AM

@Chris, I'm afraid I am probably not the person to talk to about making more friends since that is a problem my lady and I have currently. After leaving university and having all my friends (of both genders), move off and get involved in either their
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Yeah, yuh know, and that too by dark empathy @ Today at 05:49 AM

I definitely recognize the crowds thing. While it's good to get out and walk occasionally, I often wish there were less of those horrible people things around when I do it, indeed I feel more alone in a crowd of others than I do when I'm alone, so yo
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